An important question every person and couple faces is how long to wait before having sex when dating. She is author of the book, Sex Smart, and has a private practice just outside of Boston, MA.
Sex is a very wonderful experience, but it can also cause a lot of pain as well. Love To Know (LTK): The media often portrays sex and dating as having no risks besides pregnancy or disease. Zolbrod (AZ): Yes, there are most certainly emotional dangers when you have sex with another person.
That emotional connection is one of the key elements of any relationship, Toni Coleman, a psychotherapist from the Washington, DC, area, told Business Insider.
Having a good level of communication and an understanding of where the relationship is also helps make sure the experience is positive, she said, referring to her professional experience working with single men and women working toward successful relationships.
LTK: What specific emotional dangers should women be aware of?
AZ: Women need to be honest about what they want in life, not just tonight, but looking down the road a few years.
See, sex creates a false sense of intimacy, so even if you were iffy about a guy, you'd suddenly crave a commitment.
Now to problem number two: This guy might not be there yet, so while you want to move forward, he's locked in place.
Is that all you have to worry about when having sex? In some ways, it's easier to have mind-blowing, exciting sex with a stranger."It depends on how rapidly or slowly things progress." Joan Allen, a relationship expert, finds that baby boomers are far more likely to wait to have sex than younger daters."Especially among older people who went through the sexual revolution, with maturity they realize there are emotional consequences for getting involved in a sexual relationship," says Allen, author of Celebrating Single and Getting Love Right: From Stalemate to Soulmate.Plus, the studies have been conducted on very specific samples: married heterosexual couples and college-aged men and women.Few studies have taken a look at the health of a relationship as it relates to when the couple first had sex. Back in the early 2000s, Illinois State University communications professor Sandra Metts did a study to find out if having an emotional connection — in particular saying “I love you” before having sex — could have a positive impact on the trajectory of the relationship.